The "power" of prayer is a phrase often quoted. Various ministers and priests talk about prayer having the potential to change anything if one believes. But the word "power" failed to describe what I most desired from prayer. I wanted something with a softer sound and meaning to express what it meant to me. The word "comfort" fit best.

Indeed, prayer had the "power" to change all things, but how could I suppress my anxiety or eagerness while waiting for that power to reveal itself? I found that someone much bigger and smarter than I was in charge of everything. When my physical and emotional energy was spent and I said, "God, I give up. There is nothing else I can do," an unexpected peace and comfort stole through my being. I knew then comfort was what I most desired when I entered into prayer. The comfort of knowing God was listening and answering in the most caring way, and being assured "All things, truly, work together for good for those who love God and are called according to his purpose." (Romans 8:28)

Often receiving undeserved spiteful words or treatment from a loved one is when I need the comfort of prayer. And fortunately, it seems that when I ache most is when God's answers are most apparent. Because as I cry out to God to ease my emotional suffering I usually pray for evidence I am loved and the reason for the vindictive behavior was because the person was distressed and simply used me as his scapegoat.

Consequently, God always answers my prayer through an apology from the injuring party, or by a compliment, smile or another demonstration of love from someone else. And I am always comforted realizing God has answered my prayer by restoring my self-esteem. God encountered far more abuse than I ever could and became the greatest success of all time by overcoming the world. What a comfort knowing what happens on earth is truly of little significance when compared to eternity!

I suppose it doesn't matter how one describes what prayer provides for if it fits one's needs. But when I think of prayer's function, the word "comfort" still describes, most what prayer brings to me -- the comfort and security that everything possible is being done. Like I'm wrapped in a soft warm blanket while riding out the storm.

Ellen Shuck is director of religious education at St. Mary's Cathedral parish in Cape Girardeau.